TerraPrime Posted March 21, 2015 Share Posted March 21, 2015 Re: Datepalm With all love and respect, you're getting very close to stalking territory. If the gender were reversed, and a man was to plan a trip to visit India with the vague hope that he might be able to spend some time with a woman who has deliberately kept him at arm's length when it comes to romance, it would read a little creepy. You can find something to do for the month without jetting off to India, of that I am sure. Here's the thing - it's ok to have a crush on him. It's clear that you do. But, let's resolve that clearly before committing to cross-globe rendez-vous. It seems that the usual coded messages of interest are not working for you two, so, why not just come out and say "I really fancy you and I hope you will be interested in becoming romantically involved with me." That sort of resolution needs to happen, imo, before the type of meeting you're planning for next month. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arch-MaesterPhilip Posted March 21, 2015 Share Posted March 21, 2015 So Josie and I might be getting together again soon as friends. She had expressed interest in fencing so I called the local fencing center to inquire about setting up a lesson. I almost feel like I'm doing something wrong. The question is should I? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Datepalm Posted March 21, 2015 Share Posted March 21, 2015 Re: Datepalm With all love and respect, you're getting very close to stalking territory. If the gender were reversed, and a man was to plan a trip to visit India with the vague hope that he might be able to spend some time with a woman who has deliberately kept him at arm's length when it comes to romance, it would read a little creepy. You can find something to do for the month without jetting off to India, of that I am sure. Here's the thing - it's ok to have a crush on him. It's clear that you do. But, let's resolve that clearly before committing to cross-globe rendez-vous. It seems that the usual coded messages of interest are not working for you two, so, why not just come out and say "I really fancy you and I hope you will be interested in becoming romantically involved with me." That sort of resolution needs to happen, imo, before the type of meeting you're planning for next month. Sobering and well raised points :mellow: . I do hear you, though I think - god, I hope - I'm being less stalkerish in practice than the rather extreme points of frustration that are when I actually break down and post. For the most part, honestly, I'm trying to ignore this guy's existence - I just appear to be quite bad at it some times. I'm really, really not intending to meet him anywhere or anything of the sort. (including India, if I go - it will be with friends and a plan and not include him, since, for one, I don't think he's there.) Ugh, truth be told, I find this whole thing over-baked and unpleasant. It really is rather like having an illness. It feels external to me, parasitical, unrelated to any facet of who I actually am, what I do or what I want. I'm just trying to figure out some way to make it go away. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brook Posted March 21, 2015 Share Posted March 21, 2015 I don't see anything wrong with hanging out with a woman as friends, even one you have feelings for.You do need to be honest with yourself though. If all this is is 'I really enjoy this woman's company' than knock yourself out. If there is part of you secretly hoping that she'll eventually see the light and decide she wants to be with you instead than you're probably just going to make yourself, and eventually her, miserable. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arch-MaesterPhilip Posted March 21, 2015 Share Posted March 21, 2015 I don't see anything wrong with hanging out with a woman as friends, even one you have feelings for.You do need to be honest with yourself though. If all this is is 'I really enjoy this woman's company' than knock yourself out. If there is part of you secretly hoping that she'll eventually see the light and decide she wants to be with you instead than you're probably just going to make yourself, and eventually her, miserable.I honestly do enjoy her company, it was the most fun I've ever had with a woman, including ones I have slept with. I have no expectations at all. Normally I'd run from this kind of situation but I can handle being just friends. Going in into last week I prepared myself for the fact that she still might be seeing the gentleman in question. If the day comes when I can no longer handle it I'll step back. She knows how I feel about her so I imagine if it becomes difficult for her she would do the same. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kelli Fury Posted March 21, 2015 Share Posted March 21, 2015 Who doesn't have issues with their father? Wouldn't trust anyone that well figured out. Not everyone has issues with their father. Fury Sr. is my favorite person Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arch-MaesterPhilip Posted March 21, 2015 Share Posted March 21, 2015 Yup. I love both my adopted AND biological dads. They are cool.Overheard this conversation:Why do they call it tinder? Is it like tinder for a fire?Yeah I think it's because all the users are going to hell.HahahahahhaaaAnywho lol Probably so members can start fires in their loins. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maithanet Posted March 22, 2015 Share Posted March 22, 2015 Probably so members can start fires in their loins. You know what that burning sensation is? Tinder. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Larry of the Lawn Posted March 22, 2015 Share Posted March 22, 2015 Nothing a cycle of antibiotics can't clear up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arch-MaesterPhilip Posted March 22, 2015 Share Posted March 22, 2015 You know what that burning sensation is? Tinder.The burning sensation in their members. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bryanfury Posted March 22, 2015 Share Posted March 22, 2015 Tinder is a funny way to spell syphilis. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liffguard Posted March 22, 2015 Share Posted March 22, 2015 Just had a third "date" with Cute Nurse which was in fact her booty calling me at four in the morning. Things are going so well I'm actually a little bit suspicious. When does the other shoe drop? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The guy from the Vale Posted March 22, 2015 Share Posted March 22, 2015 Why not expand those parameters and give him a try? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
smegma Posted March 23, 2015 Share Posted March 23, 2015 I just met a dentist who is into BDSM. Is there a dentist that ISN'T into BDSM? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tempra Posted March 23, 2015 Share Posted March 23, 2015 I just met a dentist who is into BDSM.We are going to see where this goes...Seems apropos on so many levels:http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=bOtMizMQ6oM Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kelli Fury Posted March 23, 2015 Share Posted March 23, 2015 That better be a Steve Martin clip Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tears of Lys Posted March 23, 2015 Share Posted March 23, 2015 Damn it, I have an opportunity to date an OB/Gyn...but he's outside my parameters (age: 56). Half of me is saying don't be so close-minded as regards to age. The other half of me is saying, have you never seen "Dead Ringers"?? :eek: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nox Irradiata Posted March 23, 2015 Share Posted March 23, 2015 I just met a dentist who is into BDSM.We are going to see where this goes...What's going on with Cute Veterinarian? :)Cute Vet > Kinky Dentist Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brook Posted March 23, 2015 Share Posted March 23, 2015 Cute Vet > Kinky Dentist*nods* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elder Sister Posted March 23, 2015 Share Posted March 23, 2015 Seems apropos on so many levels:http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=bOtMizMQ6oMFirst thing I thought of when I read Chat's post. :). But now I have "I am Your Dentist" stuck in my head. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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