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9 hours ago, A Horse Named Stranger said:

Imagine he's on call, leaving the wedding, no toast only rush

Just imagine all the nurses. Lying in his arms. Yoo-hoo, ooh-ooh.

Some may I am projectin', aaaaahhh, But I'm not the only one. I hope a nurse will join us. With camera and strap-on.

 

Well that escalated!

6 hours ago, Madame deVenoge said:

It’s that I have to decide what do I want. Do I want someone being somewhat cruel in telling me that he doesn’t like my clothing (for example). He can be very hurtful in that way.

That itself shouldn't be a huge deal.  Wardrobe costs ought not break either of you.  Apart from your parenthetical there, seems like a very minor problem with a very simple fix.  Though the 'for example' makes me wonder. From what I've seen you have a very solid sense of how to present yourself well.

Or maybe it's all a strong versus secure ego question on his part.

4 hours ago, IheartIheartTesla said:

A doctor of philosophy, though, which per its original Greek meaning is a 'love of wisdom. In other words, a love doctor. How can you say we dont make good marriage material?

I'm not attempting to speak for Chats here, but it may very well depend on just what sort of Greek loving.

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12 hours ago, Madame deVenoge said:

Yes, we actually really do, lol!!!!

FINE. Grab a cuppa.

A few months back the zero waste shop a friend owns was having like a cafe rebranding/ exhibition kind of thing so I went along because I'm a 10/10 friend.

This is where I met the vaccine skeptic - the background to this is that I had stopped dating for a a bit because I...kinda didn't want to date off apps which seems like a common way of dating for people my age - she was a friend of my friend, and we struck up a conversation about Dune and why London is not a great night city. After dating on apps for a few months, getting asked out in person was nice so I said yes.

I'm not someone that is good at texting *at all* so we didn't really talk much till I saw her again where after finding out what kind of work I did she proceeded to tell me that she was grateful her parents hadn't vaccinated her for years because she thought the 'natural course of illness & complementary medicine ( and turmeric)' had worked for her for the last 30 years.

I thought that was the worst of it, but she then got to COVID and went off about how you couldn't trust the hospitals and other nonsense.

I stayed for the *minimum* amount of time after the above conversation and then gave out to my friend for not warning me.

Reader, this is why you don't base your decisions on nice eyes & shared love for papa denis.

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3 minutes ago, Raja said:

Also, it is one hundred percent always turmeric with these people. And I speak for all Indians everywhere ( we probably eat this spice with every meal); it does jack shit.

What are you talking about?  That's why India is famous as the land without disease. 

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30 minutes ago, Raja said:

Also, it is one hundred percent always turmeric with these people. And I speak for all Indians everywhere ( we probably eat this spice with every meal); it does jack shit.

To be fair, curcumin is legitimately studied for various therapeutic stuff (primarily anti-cancer efficacy from memory). But of course, that's highly targeted towards a specific kind of disease from one component of it. For the rest, yeah its probably the 'essential oil' of Indian spices.

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21 hours ago, Raja said:

Me just reading this thread on a day off and catching strays from Tears of Lys :crying:

Hey, that's just me.  There's PLENTY of people who would just love having a doctor as a spouse!  

 

But bear in mind, I swore I'd never marry anyone in sales and look how that turned out.  :dunno: 

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Come on people. Let’s discuss…..

”Naked Attraction”. The British imported reality dating show (now #2) formerly #1 on Max in the States.

So far that I’ve seen, everyone seems to be mid-20’s - mid-30’s, in physical condition ranging from pretty decent to spectacular. Some of them seem really into themselves, so much so that I can’t see them dating anyone. I know there are some people at the three-week mark follow up who seem more into each other than other couples, and I would ordinarily wonder if any of them have gone the distance, but fortunately, there is Google, which has helpfully informed me that the show has a 2% success rate. So, from a statistical methods perspective, it’s not a great bet.

I’m only on Season 1, episode 3, and the formula is wearing on me, already.

Thoughts?

 

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10 hours ago, A Horse Named Stranger said:

 

As required by law, I guess.

Not the clip I was looking for. But still makes the point.

Video unavailable in my country.

That said, the Doctor and I broke up this morning. He’s been cold to me, recently. There have been many indications - he used to call me every day; then….not. I could go on. 

Anyways, we had awoken this morning, and he went out to the living room to read. He most often reads a bit in bed if he wakes up early. I figured it was as good a time as any to talk about the elephant in the room. 

He started out that we are very different people. I said yes, and that’s what makes it fun and exciting. 

Aaaaugh, we can just fast forward to the part about where I said, “you know I love you.” And he said “I just can’t say that I feel the same way about you.”

And I got my stuff, and left.

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1 hour ago, dog-days said:

I'm sorry. Even when it's right, it hurts. 

Not sure when the good time to say this is, but from how you've described him, you deserve better.

You’re right; I do. You said it at the perfect time, and I’m just going to have to remind myself of that. 

I need to remind myself: it’s not me, it’s him. 

There’s nothing wrong with me. I’m a good person, a successful professional, and good looking. I’m hot, damn it, even though I’m not in marathon shape, I’m still in good shape.

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I’m having to work really hard at not calling him. 

So, what I’m going to do is 100% try to distract myself. My housekeeper is coming tomorrow to deep clean the house, but, in the meantime, I can clean my fridge. Organize my garage. Change over my closet from summer to fall. Go get new running shoes.

And next week, or the week after, maybe I’ll be ready to get out there, again.

I recently was contacted on my one social media account by a local matchmaker asking me if I am single…I figure she’s looking to get some guy in my age range a date. She and I are going to talk today.

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14 hours ago, Madame deVenoge said:

I recently was contacted on my one social media account by a local matchmaker asking me if I am single…I figure she’s looking to get some guy in my age range a date. She and I are going to talk today.

I'd say take a week or three.  When I broke up with my girlfriend last year, not actually expecting to, I realized over the next week or two that my instinct pretty much aligned with where we actually were.   

I found it helpful to take some time for resetting myself to my own expectations.  (coming up with half a GRRM quote about fashioned for love here)  Summary suggestion is let it go, and give at least some time for something to happen more organically.  

There's probably always a tension between standards and wish list, but as long as you trust your own instincts, I'd tell the matchmaker to give you a bit, while you do your own thing.  Unless you're ready for @Tywin et al.

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16 hours ago, Madame deVenoge said:

 

I recently was contacted on my one social media account by a local matchmaker asking me if I am single…I figure she’s looking to get some guy in my age range a date. She and I are going to talk today.

Tell her no more doctors or lawyers or other narcissistic professions.  

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